A blog about sex, erotica and pornography.

I’ve always enjoyed the getting to know you process that accompanies new relationships, both romantic and platonic. I think my genuine interest in people shows and they become comfortable enough around me to reveal more of themselves than perhaps they normally would. The one aspect that especially fascinates me is sexuality. Ever since I was a teenager, I’ve taken a keen interest in what other people think of sex, what kind of sex they have, their turn ons and turn offs, past experiences, fantasies and fears, secret confessions, etc.

What sexual secrets do you think they're hiding?

I think the biggest reason the sexuality of others has continued to fascinate me so much is because of its unpredictability. Very soon after meeting someone for the first time I usually get a sense of what type of person they are, but when it comes to sexual matters, I’ve found it is better not to assume anything.

For example:

• I know a woman who is highly conservative when it comes to her career, home, friends, family, fashion, music and literary tastes, attitude to life, etc. There are no exceptions… except when it comes to sex. She is a firecracker in bed, a self-described expert in fellatio, anal sex… yes please, and switching between the two, in either direction, is welcome.
• I know a university professor who is rather geeky, but not in a young cool way – more your middle-aged old school variety. His young students probably think he doesn’t get laid. Except underneath his long-sleeve button-front shirts and pressed trousers he is almost completely covered in tattoos and his cock, heavily pierced. Oh, and he’s married and they swing.
• I know a butch lesbian who fucks guys on the side. Some of the men she has had sex with have become long-term lovers who she cares about. Yet when I’ve asked if this has changed her lesbian status in any way, the answer is no. She still strongly identifies with being a lesbian.
• I used to know a university student who was perhaps the most beautiful looking man I’d ever seen, classic model looks – think a young Brad Pitt – who got his kicks out of being kicked… in the balls. I don’t mean playfully kicked (if such a thing exists). I’m talking about kicked with boots until he’d pass out. Actually until I met him I didn’t even know the ball busting fetish existed. Unfortunately we lost touch but I hope he got help for this. While I find it quite a fascinating fetish, I know he was tormented by the damage he was inflicting on his body.

Over to you sexy readers. Do you think your sexuality is easy for others to predict? What surprises have you encountered with others? Does your lover know your deep sexual desires?